Part IV
In this part . . .
P roviding insight into your personality isn’t the only application of astrology. It can also help you understand your relationships, give you a sense of the large patterns of your life, and show you how to time your actions for maximum benefit. In this part, I discuss all that. I also talk about one of the great astrological bug-a-bears of all time: Retrograde Mercury, which has a nasty reputation for turning ordinary activities into adventures in chaos. I tell you how to take advantage of this much maligned transit. That’s what this part of the book is about: The here-and-now practical application of astrology.
Chapter 15
In This Chapter
Looking for love, sign by sign
Checking out your chances
Going beyond the Sun
Astrology does not judge. All 12 signs are equally worthy. That’s the official line. In reality, everyone has preferences. Peering out from within the confines of your own horoscope, you can’t help feeling that some signs are easier to get along with than others. In this chapter, I talk about the Sun sign combinations — the ones that feel natural from day one, and the ones that make you crazy. “How do I love thee?” There are 78 ways — one for each pair of Sun signs.
In the pages that follow, I talk about each combination under the sign that comes first in the zodiac. If you’re a fiery Aries and your beloved is a peace-loving Libra, turn to Aries for a description of the dynamics of your relationship. And if you’re a sentimental Pisces involved with a workaholic Virgo, look up your relationship under that sign. Since Pisces is the last sign in the zodiac, every relationship you have (except for one with a fellow fish) is classified under the other sign. It may not be fair. But that’s the way it is.
Aries in Love
Lusty and exuberant, you’re passionate, idealistic, and devoted, especially when you’re in love. You’re also impatient, and you don’t like to feel hemmed in. Lovers who try to control your behavior quickly lose favor with you, as do friends who call too often or demand too much intimacy. Here’s how you do with other signs of the zodiac:
Aries + Aries: Think of chili peppers, saxophones, and volcanoes — everything hot. This fast-moving, action-oriented, competitive combo leads to fireworks — both when you want them and when you don’t. Example: Matthew Broderick and Sarah Jessica Parker.
Aries + Taurus: The impetuous Ram is feisty, motivated, and hot-to-trot; the steady, stubborn, seductive Bull is unhurried and immovable. As with all next-door-neighbor combinations, the differences in style and tempo can drive you crazy. Example: Spencer Tracy (Aries) and Katharine Hepburn (Taurus).
Aries + Gemini: You’re both high-spirited and easily bored, with a million interests and a love for activities of all sorts. Aries is straightforward and physical, while inconstant Gemini lives in his or her head. Nonetheless, this is a terrific combo. Example: Warren Beatty (Aries) and Annette Bening (Gemini).
Aries + Cancer: You’re both dynamic and expressive. Cancer is sensitive and fearful, while hot-tempered Aries is dominating, spontaneous, and courageous. But Aries isn’t tuned in emotionally — to the continual frustration of the moody, intuitive Crab.
Aries + Leo: Two fire signs together generate a lot of warmth. Except for occasional outbursts of ego by either party, it doesn’t get any better than this merry, high-spirited match. Example: Jennifer Garner (Aries) and Ben Affleck (Leo).
Aries + Virgo: The rambunctious Ram prefers to leap first and look later; the inhibited Virgin wants to mull things over. Aries says it like it is, direct and to the point; analytical Virgo thinks before speaking and tries to be sensitive (but often fails). Both signs have legitimate complaints about the other. Example: Tabitha (Aries) and Stephen King (Virgo).
Aries + Libra: Opposites attract in this combo. Aries brings impassioned energy, curiosity, and enthusiasm to the mix; Libra adds intelligence, courtesy, and charm. Even though the differences between you aren’t to be dismissed — Aries is spontaneous and direct while Libra is thoughtful and restrained — this is nonetheless a recipe for romance.
Aries + Scorpio: Sexually, this combo is off the charts. But dashing Aries is straightforward, while jealous Scorpio is anything but. As a rule, this pairing is asking for trouble.
Aries + Sagittarius: Two fire signs egging each other on makes for a classic high-energy, good-time combo, assuming that you don’t burn yourselves out. Even though the fights may be fierce, laughter gets you through — unless it doesn’t, in which case neither of you has the patience to patch things up.
Aries + Capricorn: The Goat initially gets off on the adventure of being with such a reckless, blustery creature. But Capricorns are relentlessly grown-up, and Rams are perpetual adolescents overflowing with gusto and half-baked plans. Most of the time, the thrill fades.
Aries + Aquarius: Although these two signs are sextile, this isn’t as happy a duo as you might expect. Visionary Aquarius is thinking about the future; Aries is brash, bold, and be-here-now. A strong Venus/Mars tie can be a big help.
Aries + Pisces: The fluid, sympathetic Fish can tame the dominating Ram for a while. But what happens at the inevitable moment when emotional Pisces needs a little nurturing? The Ram is on the lam. Protect yourself, Pisces. Look elsewhere.
If you’re in love with an Aries, don’t be shy, subtle, or hesitant. Flirt boldly. Suggest something casual and spur-of-the-moment. Leave no doubt in Aries’ mind that you’re interested. If your efforts fall flat, pull back instantly and try being unavailable. Above all, don’t beg, plead, or whine. Aries has no patience for small-time behavior or any form of neediness.
Taurus in Love
Possessive, faithful, and not always as mellow as you’d like to be, you require physical contact, emotional and financial security, and domestic comfort. Once you find someone who shares your sensuality and basic values, you’re content. You can happily while away your time just being together, doing nothing. Troubles arise when your partner wants a change of pace. Inevitably, you resist. You’re the immovable object. Learn to bend.
Taurus + Taurus: Assuming one of you has the gumption to make the first move, this could be a long-term love-in. But when disagreements emerge, you lock horns. You’ll encounter big passion and big fights, but this combo is a definite go.
Taurus + Gemini: Effervescent Gemini loosens up the stolid Bull. Gemini loves change and jumps into it without hesitation, while conservative Taurus is uncomfortable with change and tries to avoid it. As always, neighboring signs can be problematic. Check for Mercury, Venus, or the Moon in each other’s signs.
Taurus + Cancer: Welcome home. Taurus is sensual, loving, and security-minded; Cancer is intuitive, nurturing, and security-minded. A perfect, harmonious match.
Taurus + Leo: Reliable Taurus wants to have a normal life, a regular bedtime, and a growing bank account. Demanding Leo wants to live large. And neither of you gives an inch.
Taurus + Virgo: You both value practical solutions, even if sensible Taurus takes longer to get there than efficient Virgo. In addition to sharing values, comfort-loving Taurus calms Virgo’s frazzled nerves, while goal-oriented Virgo prods Taurus into action. A fine combination.
Taurus + Libra: You’re both ruled by sexy Venus, yet what a difference there is between you! Intellectual Libra values refinement, music, soft lighting; earthy Taurus wants to skip the preliminaries and get to it. When the thrill of the moment fades, you have little to say to each other.
Taurus + Scorpio: Passion’s playground. Scorpio bubbles over with erotic ideas; Taurus goes along. Scorpio’s love of secrecy, melodrama, and control receives a cooler welcome from the Bull, who moves slowly and is considerably more upfront. When troubles arise, you’re equally stubborn. Example: Jessica Lange (Taurus) and Sam Shepard (Scorpio).
Taurus + Sagittarius: Sexually, you’re a match, at least for a while. Otherwise, you’re so different it’s astonishing that you ever got together at all. Sagittarius collects frequent-flyer miles, wants more than the usual amount of personal space, and hungers for stimulation; Taurus gardens, needs loads of cuddling (and a cozy den), and loves to stay home, making this a difficult combo.
Taurus + Capricorn: A fine match you’ve got here. You have similar values, an appreciation for physical comfort, a desire for financial prosperity, a shared work ethic, and a frequently reinforced belief in the healing power of sex. Example: Coretta Scott King (Taurus) and Martin Luther King, Jr. (Capricorn).
Taurus + Aquarius: Airy, eccentric Aquarius is all about ideas; conservative, stable Taurus is rooted in the real world. Both are rigid. This isn’t a good long-term prospect, despite the notable example of Alice B. Toklas (Taurus) and Gertrude Stein (Aquarius). (For more about this couple, flip to the sidebar “Incompatible? You be the judge.”)
Taurus + Pisces: Earthy Taurus is essentially physical; dreamy Pisces is metaphysical. Yet these two share similar rhythms, tastes, and romantic notions. Examples: Sid Vicious (Taurus) and Nancy Spungen (Pisces), Robert (Taurus) and Elizabeth Barrett Browning (Pisces).
Head over heels for a Taurus? Hang around. Be patient. Avoid arguments. Reveal no deep-seated neuroses. And give Taurus a chance to feel comfortable. Security is essential for Taurus. To give your Bull a safe haven, provide rich food, soft touches, lazy afternoons, good wine, leisurely walks in the woods, and every reason to feel relaxed. Taurus responds to scent and texture, so wear silk, velvet, cashmere, tweed — anything touchable. That’s where Taurus lives.
Gemini in Love
Wanton Gemini, the last living proponent of casual sex, flirts outrageously, connects easily, and moves on at warp speed when things fall apart. Because you love variety and relish intellectual challenges, you seek out witty, up-to-date people who share your delight in easy banter and constant stimulation. You’re lively, enchanting, and flighty — yet another victim of the grass-is-always-greener myth.
Gemini + Gemini: Despite the overall level of nervous energy that you generate together, you amuse and engage one another. And you never have to deal with those bleak silences that descend on the relationships of others. This is a definite talk-fest.
Gemini + Cancer: Easily distracted Twins are emotional lightweights, capable of denying their feelings for years on end; moody Crabs, Olympic gold-medal champions of the weeping event, want to connect emotionally, preferably at home. Look for strong planetary ties because this is ordinarily not a match made in heaven. Example: Wallis Simpson (Gemini) and Edward VIII (Cancer).
Gemini + Leo: These two playful revelers truly enjoy each other. But they may unconsciously compete for center stage, which Leo requires and Gemini, an incessant talker, hates to relinquish. Also, Leo is loyal to a fault, while Gemini . . . well, consider this example: John F. Kennedy (Gemini) and Jacqueline Kennedy (Leo).
Gemini + Virgo: Smart and tart, you click immediately and you can’t stop talking. But Gemini believes in free association and the benefits of serendipity, while Virgo is the mindset behind Mapquest. Ultimately, you get on each other’s nerves.
Gemini + Libra: This wonderful combination promotes affectionate flirting and conversation that never stops. Even though it isn’t the most passionate liaison, by and large you can’t go wrong. Example: Paul McCartney (Gemini) and Linda Eastman (Libra).
Gemini + Scorpio: Scorpio considers sex the central mystery of life. Gemini, a lustier sign than is often acknowledged, enjoys it without getting all emotional about it. Soon jealous Scorpio is feeling wounded, while flighty Gemini, now immersed in the crossword puzzle, can’t help wondering what the problem is. Example: Nicole Kidman (Gemini) and Keith Urban (Scorpio).
Gemini + Sagittarius: Despite an occasional bout of head-butting, this freedom-loving, loquacious pair is on the same wavelength. Advice: Fill your schedules with varied activities and plenty of travel; pile reading material and notebooks on the bedside tables; and don’t get hung up on togetherness, because that’s not where this independent couple lives. Example: Angelina Jolie (Gemini) and Brad Pitt (Sagittarius).
Gemini + Capricorn: Somber Capricorns take themselves seriously; easygoing Geminis, though self-absorbed, take things lightly and are always trotting off in new directions. Not an easy combo. Examples: Jean-Paul Sartre (Gemini) and Simone de Beauvoir (Capricorn), Johnny Depp (Gemini), and Vanessa Paradis (Capricorn).
Gemini + Aquarius: You may be soul mates. You’re both sociable and fun-loving, and you both have hyperactive minds (though Aquarius wants to discuss social issues, while Gemini has ideas about less highfalutin’ topics). Neither of you is in touch emotionally, so when times are tough, the glue that holds you together may weaken.
Gemini + Pisces: Laid-back Pisces wants to sleep in; Gemini likes to get an early start. Mystical Pisces wants to analyze your dreams; Gemini prefers to explore the blogosphere. You come from different planets. Clashes are inevitable, but you’re both able to bend. Examples: Laurie Anderson (Gemini) and Lou Reed (Pisces).
If a Gemini is on your mind, be upbeat, up-to-date, unpredictable, and available. Gemini is quick-witted, curious, well-informed, and game for anything. To capture Gemini’s attention, exhibit those same qualities. Don’t be morose. Don’t bemoan the sad state of affairs in the world today. Don’t complain. Don’t demand that your dates be scheduled weeks in advance. Above all, remember that Gemini values lively conversation. Wonder why Geminis have a reputation for infidelity? It’s because they’re so easily bored.
Cancer in Love
Cancer has a talent for intimacy and caring. When you’re in love, you blithely ignore the most obvious flaws while homing in on your beloved’s hidden potential. Loving, generous, sentimental, and maternal, you need to be with someone who shares your drive and your willingness to explore complex emotional issues. When you find such a person, you’re totally supportive — even when the reverse isn’t true. You also have a tendency to cling. The smothering mother is a Cancerian archetype for good reason: Sometimes you can’t let go, not even a teensy bit.
Cancer + Cancer: You’re intuitive and responsive, with plenty of energy and drive. Give it a go. But remember: Emotions run high during full Moons, and you both feel the pull. Examples: Rogers and Hammerstein, Barnum and Bailey, literary critics Diana and Lionel Trilling.
Cancer + Leo: The domineering Lion loves passion, adventure, and five-star hotels; the moody Crab wants a quieter life in a cozy cottage covered in vines. If Leo is willing to downsize expectations and Cancer is ready to stroke the Lion’s fragile ego and take a chance, you can find common ground. Examples: Kevin Bacon (Cancer) and Kyra Sedgwick (Leo).
Cancer + Virgo: After you establish some trust, Cancer helps Virgo relax, and Virgo helps Cancer feel more secure. Problems arise with emotional issues. Supersensitive Cancer wants to discuss feelings, while critical Virgo prefers to skip the emotional stuff (unless it can be approached in a calm and systematic way) and make practical plans.
Cancer + Libra: Domestic Cancer and artistic Libra have a fabulous time decorating a house together. But Cancer’s emotional sensitivities cause logical Libra to pull back. Like other signs that square each other, this isn’t a simpatico pairing, though Libra’s desire to be mated — combined with Cancer’s need to nest — can be a mitigating factor.
Cancer + Scorpio: You’re both in touch with your feelings and in love with love. You probably have a deeply intuitive relationship, though problems may arise when Scorpio can’t cope with the quick ebb and flow of Cancerian emotions. Scorpio feelings, while deep, change slowly; Cancer feelings are in constant flux. Examples: Tom Hanks (Cancer) and Rita Wilson (Scorpio), Princess Diana (Cancer) — or Camilla Parker-Bowles (Cancer) — and Prince Charles (Scorpio).
Cancer + Sagittarius: Cancer wants to love, nourish, and possess; Sagittarius can’t be possessed. Though you may love each other intensely, you’re completely different. Be warned. Examples: Frida Kahlo (Cancer) and Diego Rivera (Sagittarius), Tom Cruise (Cancer) and Katie Holmes (Sagittarius).
Cancer + Capricorn: Like every pair of opposites, this one has pluses and minuses. Moody Cancer has an intuitive sense for how things ought to be done; sensible Capricorn prefers to go by the book. That’s a small difference, given that Capricorn helps Cancer feel protected, Cancer helps Capricorn feel loved, and you share a reverence for tradition and family.
Cancer + Aquarius: Warm, nurturing Cancer with cool, detached Aquarius? Not recommended, though some couples have defied the odds. Example: Nancy (Cancer) and Ronald Reagan (Aquarius).
Cancer + Pisces: You’re equally sensitive. Great feeling flows between you, your rhythms are similar, and you may even share a rare psychic connection. This is a perfect match, though Cancer, who loves to rescue, may find it difficult to overcome the famed Piscean ability to self-destruct. Examples: George Sand (Cancer) and Frederic Chopin (Pisces), Courtney Love (Cancer) and Kurt Cobain (Pisces).
If you fall for a Cancer, think roses, kisses, chocolate, and candlelight. A monogamist at heart, Cancer is tender and amorous — the real deal. Go to the ocean. Go dancing. Go anywhere by moonlight. Some signs do these things because they think they should. Cancerians do them because they respond to these traditional symbols — and because they crave intimacy. Three suggestions: Ask about your Crab’s entire family tree; prove that you can cook; and be willing to discuss your emotions — in glorious detail.
Leo in Love
Uninhibitedly sexual, you’re romantic, generous, witty, manipulative, loyal, and, despite your confident appearance, desperately in need of love. When someone wins your heart, you want that person in your life forever. But you demand to be wooed in just the right way, insist on holding the reins of power, and can be interfering and controlling. Despite your bad behavior, you’re so radiant and likable that you get away with everything.
Leo + Leo: You have big, theatrical personalities, and your house is filled with laughter. But you also have big, thirsty egos in need of constant infusions of applause and praise. Sexually, you’re dynamite. Still, the question remains: Who’s the king of this castle? A tough call. Example: Antonio Banderas and Melanie Griffith.
Leo + Virgo: Flamboyant Leo makes grand gestures; uptight Virgo focuses on details. This isn’t an easy duo. Ideally, one or both of you has at least one planet in the other’s sign to bridge the considerable distance between you. Example: Jennifer Lopez (Leo with Venus in Virgo) and Marc Anthony (Virgo with Mars in Leo).
Leo + Libra: Libra is a flirt; Leo likes to play games — it works. Though Leo is more dramatic than even-tempered Libra, these two stimulate and delight each other. Example: Zelda (Leo) and F. Scott Fitzgerald (Libra).
Leo + Scorpio: Leo blazes, Scorpio burns; both are drama queens. Fiery, intense, entertaining, and involving, this passionate, complicated alliance generates good times and major battles — fire and ice. Examples: Ted Hughes (Leo) and Sylvia Plath (Scorpio), Arnold Schwarzenegger (Leo) and Maria Shriver (Scorpio), Bill (Leo) and Hillary Rodham Clinton (Scorpio).
Leo + Sagittarius: This fiery, exuberant combo offers laughter galore, an abundance of passion, and shared adventures in the world at large. Loyal Leo, who wants to do everything together, should remember that free-wheeling Sagittarius needs to be let off the leash once in a while, and upfront Sagittarius has to get used to the fact that melodramatic Leo needs to be a star.
Leo + Capricorn: Flamboyant Leo loves grand gestures, overstated emotions, and dramatic scenarios. Conservative Capricorn prefers to stay cool by underplaying his or her reactions. But they both adore luxurious surroundings and the finer things in life. If you have plenty of money, this match can work.
Leo + Aquarius: If expressive Leo can accept the Water Bearer’s eccentric ways (and friends) and if freedom-loving Aquarius has no problem showering the needy Lion with adoration, this can be a match. Leo must also give up some control though, because Aquarius resists being marshaled into someone else’s plan.
Leo + Pisces: Pisces is bewitched by the fiery confidence of the audacious Lion, who in turn is swept away by the expressive, impractical Fish. Initially, quixotic Pisces feels protected by Leo (who wants to make everything okay). But in the end, the Fish (who has screwed things up in a way that Leo can scarcely believe) feels criticized and judged. Leave this relationship alone.
To capture the heart of a Leo, look great, exude confidence, and open your wallet. Leo expects flowers after the first date, and after that the stakes rise. It’s not a matter of greed; Leo just wants to be sure of your feelings. So don’t think that you can get away with second-class goods — Leo knows the difference. Plus, Leo is a glutton for affection, attention, and compliments. You can’t be too brazen — Leo frogs think they’re princes; Leo princes think they’re kings; Leo kings think they’re gods. You can’t lay it on too thick.
Virgo in Love
You’re understanding, easy to talk to, and far sexier than your virginal symbol suggests. But your idealistic standards are impossibly high, and mere mortals have trouble making the cut. When someone does prove worthy, you’re warm, worshipful, devoted, and helpful. Unfortunately, you often have to learn the hard way that well-meaning suggestions and advice, no matter how gently delivered, pack a terrible punch.
Virgo + Virgo: Your minds work in similar ways. Assuming your perfectionist compulsions can coexist, this is a happy, healthy union.
Virgo + Libra: Analytical Virgo and thoughtful Libra connect mentally. But efficient, industrious Virgo aims for perfection, while ever-so-slightly lazy Libra needs more down time and yearns for romance even when there’s laundry to be done. As always with neighboring signs, look for planets in the other person’s sign. Example: Jada Pinkett Smith (Virgo with Venus in Libra) and Will Smith (Libra with Mars in Virgo).
Virgo + Scorpio: This is an admirable match. Virgo is earthy enough to satisfy Scorpio’s lustier moments, while Scorpio, a skilled detective who loves to dig into the meanings of things, can meet Virgo on his or her own intellectual ground. Example: Mary Matalin (Virgo) and James Carville (Scorpio).
Virgo + Sagittarius: A sizzling, erotic charge runs between you, and you connect mentally. But extravagant Sagittarius likes to talk big and deal with the small stuff later (if at all), while prudent Virgo prefers to keep it real and attend to the details. After the initial fascination fades, the differences may be too great to overcome, as is often the case with two signs that square each other.
Virgo + Capricorn: Two signs of the same element understand each other. You have great rapport, no effort required. You’re both practical, methodical, accomplished, and ardent. This match is an excellent bet for a durable and congenial relationship.
Virgo + Aquarius: Virgo’s unique, well-stocked mind excites brilliant Aquarius, whose rebellious ways help virtuous Virgo loosen up. You have fun together, and you click intellectually. But neither of you is at home in the gooey realm of emotions, meaning that when problems come up in that sphere, you both feel ill at ease.
Virgo + Pisces: You fascinate each other because you’re polar opposites. Virgo needs order, schedules, and reasons. Intuitive Pisces reacts instinctively and has a deep and abiding attraction to chaos. Naturally, Virgo wins the arguments. But easygoing Pisces has ways of not going along at all. It’s a contest of equals: Anal-compulsive meets passive-aggressive.
To entice a Virgo, admire his intelligence; bring articles; engage in word play; and flatter his astute mind. Between the sheets, Virgo can be absolutely red-hot, but Virgo is also a control freak — as uptight as they come. So avoid messy emotions. In fact, avoid messes of all kinds. And remember: Virgo is always concerned about appropriate behavior and proper appearance, so no affection in public, please.
Libra in Love
You’re gregarious, attractive, and a natural flirt. Born to be mated, you’re restrained in public, amorous in private, and thoroughly identified with the object of your affection. As a single person, you’re romantic, charming, and popular. But being part of a duo is essential to your fulfillment, and ultimately you’re happy to leave the dating life behind.
Libra + Libra: The downside to this duo is that if you feel ambivalent about the same issues, you can flounder in indecision forever. Otherwise, you’re both creative, courteous, logical, and likable. This is a conversation that never stops. Example: Tim Robbins and Susan Sarandon.
Libra + Scorpio: Although these two signs share a longing for romance, Scorpio craves emotional intensity and melodrama, while even-handed Libra yearns for serenity. Unless Libra has planets in Scorpio, the initial attraction is strong, but the long-term connection isn’t.
Libra + Sagittarius: Though the independent Archer’s need for adventure may cause Libra a few jealous moments, Libra’s charm reels the wandering gypsy back in. A fine pairing despite the weirdness of this example: Soon-yi Previn (Libra) and Woody Allen (Sagittarius).
Libra + Capricorn: Old-fashioned romance appeals to you both, and you adore being part of a couple. But you both tend to repress emotions. When issues arise, as they inevitably do, the challenge is to admit that there’s a problem and to deal with it.
Libra + Aquarius: You could talk all night. Your mental connection is extraordinary. Other aspects of love leave something to be desired. Look for a strong Mars/Venus tie. John Lennon (Libra) and Yoko Ono (Aquarius) didn’t have that planetary bond. But her Ascendant in his Sun sign and his Moon in her Sun sign helped knit them together.
Libra + Pisces: You seem to be soul mates, but you aren’t. Mysterious Pisces is a seething mass of soul, and Libra, though temptingly romantic on the surface, is cool, calm, and uncomfortable with emotions. After a while, the sensitive Fish feels ignored, while Libra, never the energy capital of the zodiac, feels exhausted.
In love with a Libra? Be smart, stylish, cultured, and good-looking. Take Libra to scenic places — Libra melts in the presence of natural beauty. Try not to be needy (Libra responds only when it matters, so don’t cry wolf) or jealous (Libra flirts like mad and attracts admirers everywhere). And don’t be loud or lewd: Libra can’t stand it. They can stand healthy disagreement, though. In fact, they often thrive on it. That’s because Libra is actually looking for a relationship, not a clone.
Scorpio in Love
You’re intense, devoted, and fascinated by the game of love. You think of romance in mythic terms, demand grand passion (sexually and otherwise), and often fall into the quicksand of obsession. Because you radiate sex appeal and have such a compelling presence, other people often become fixated on you. (Note, however, that though Scorpio has a well-deserved reputation as the sexiest sign in the zodiac, many Scorpios also struggle with sexual problems that range from sexoholic excess to impotence, with a full complement of bizarre detours in between.) Still, the bottom line is this: You expect love (and sex) to transform you — and that’s exactly what happens.
Scorpio + Scorpio: Communication is eerily easy, and sex is erotic beyond imagining. But should there be even a hint of suspicion or jockeying for power, the psychic warfare is unbearable. This can be a match for the ages, or an exercise in tortured excess. Example: Larry and Althea Flynt.
Scorpio + Sagittarius: Scorpio is complicated and covert; Sagittarius is direct and honest. Scorpio seeks total immersion; Sagittarius wants independence. The Sun signs are stunningly different. But when at least one partner has planets in the other’s sign, the attraction is compelling. Examples: Pablo Picasso (Scorpio with the Moon in Sagittarius) and Françoise Gilot (Sagittarius).
Scorpio + Capricorn: These serious, lusty signs seem different because Scorpio dives deep into the tropical sea of emotion, while Capricorn, though prone to sulking, prefers to skate lightly on the frozen surface. In fact, Scorpio gives Capricorn permission to have feelings, Capricorn protects the ever-emotive Scorpio, and you both feel like you have come home. Example: Mike Nichols (Scorpio) and Diane Sawyer (Capricorn).
Scorpio + Aquarius: Fixed signs don’t submit easily. Then again, you don’t respect people who do. The problem is that Scorpio seeks attachment, is absorbed by emotional complexity, and leads from the heart, while Aquarius, however mentally vibrant, prefers a little emotional distance. This is a volatile mix. Example: Demi Moore (Scorpio) and Ashton Kutcher (Aquarius).
Scorpio + Pisces: You’re both sensual, intuitive, and emotionally aware. As a rule, possessive Scorpio is more at ease with the ways of the world than the out-of-this-world Fish. But Scorpio longs for magic, and imaginative Pisces can make it happen. Examples: Goldie Hawn (Scorpio) and Kurt Russell (Pisces).
If you’re fixated on a Scorpio, be passionate and expressive. Sing Gershwin or Cole Porter. Invite Scorpio over to see Casablanca. Watch an eclipse together. When the object of your affections enters your domain, exploit your home-court advantage. Feel free to play games, to imply, and to pull back. Scorpio loves that stuff. Be secretive, suggestive, manipulative, and ever-so-slightly aggressive — and at the same time, be emotionally available. Make eye contact. Let Scorpions know how fascinating they are. Really, no one compares.
Sagittarius in Love
You cherish your freedom, long for adventure, and take “Don’t fence me in” as your personal creed. It goes without saying that relationships are an issue. When a relationship challenges you or introduces you to a wider world, you’re intrigued and excited. Unpredictability attracts you. But too many rules, too many formal dinners, and too much domesticity drive you to despair.
Sagittarius + Sagittarius: Like two Don Quixotes, you understand each other well. Eternally young at heart, you share adventures, aspirations, and the ability to amuse each other. But you tend to dream the impossible dream and may fail to address concrete issues when they arise. Make frequent reality checks.
Sagittarius + Capricorn: Capricorn is charmed by the Archer’s madcap ways, while jaunty Sagittarius is amazed at how organized and grown-up the Goat is. Like two neighboring countries, you can either go to war or establish a cultural exchange. It helps if one of you has a planet or two in the other’s sign. Example: John F. Kennedy, Jr. (Sagittarius) and Carolyn Bessette Kennedy (Capricorn).
Sagittarius + Aquarius: You’re both lively, broad-minded, and unregimented. But neither of you has much talent for domesticity — or togetherness. Prepare for a life of takeout dinners, offbeat friends, late-night videos, and all-night chatter.
Sagittarius + Pisces: You are two seekers, each with an inclination to dream. But Sagittarius deflates the fragile Piscean ego, while sensitive Pisces, though bewitching, can become strangely passive, which fiery Sagittarius can’t abide. A questionable couple at best.
To snag a Sagittarius, don’t come on too strong. Clichéd courting gestures make the Archer squirm. Instead, be casual, witty, lighthearted, and spontaneous. Spur-of-the-moment outings work in your favor; laying down too many rules works against you. Remember that Sagittarius wants to be a free spirit and delights in the unexpected. So keep your passport up-to-date. Be willing to be daring. And don’t rush Sagittarians: No matter what they say, most of them are commitment-phobic. They need to relax into relationships.
Capricorn in Love
Conservative and classy, you want a traditional relationship with all the trappings. You aren’t particularly interested in wild flings, which isn’t to say that you’re uninterested in sex. On the contrary, as an earth sign, you’re a highly hormonal, high-stamina lover. But random sex seems meaningless to you. You’re a devoted spouse, an attentive parent, a true friend, a loyal son or daughter — the whole shebang. You seek ever-after commitment and nothing less.
Capricorn + Capricorn: You’re both ambitious, committed, and lusty. But you run the danger of leading a life so upright, work-oriented, and tightly scheduled that you never have any fun apart from sex. (Even there, you aren’t the most creative lovers on the planet.) And if either one of you gets depressed, you’re in trouble.
Capricorn + Aquarius: Capricorn is a traditionalist who believes in systems; progressive Aquarius is a maverick who likes to overturn them. Capricorn worries and feels despondent; Aquarius believes that the future is bright. Chances are you irritate each other. This can be a disaster — unless one of you has a planet or two in the other’s sign.
Capricorn + Pisces: Enterprising Capricorn knows how to handle the workaday world but can get bogged down in it; compassionate Pisces, who has other values, specializes in escaping from (or ignoring) the requirements of reality. But Pisces can lift Capricorn’s spirits, and Capricorn can help Pisces get a toe or two on the ground. You inspire and support each other.
Fixated on a Capricorn? Cool and contained, Capricorn follows the rules. You should, too. Dress with class, be polite, be successful, be admiring. Offer up respectable, high-class activities — theatre, art exhibits, lectures. Don’t jump into bed right away. Don’t be aggressive. Don’t be vulgar. Don’t nag. Let things unfold naturally. And be patient: Capricorn represses emotions and generally takes things slowly. But Capricorn plays for keeps.
Aquarius in Love
A friendly, unconventional sort who’s intrigued by everyone, you connect easily but superficially, and you value your freedom. Despite your reputation for bohemian behavior, when you find someone you respect, you willingly make the commitment — which doesn’t mean that you intend to give up your independence or your eccentric ways. (Those are forever.) You can be as passionate as anyone else (and kinkier than most), but much as you enjoy it, you aren’t a slave to sex. You live in your head.
Aquarius + Aquarius: Ah, the people you meet, the causes you support, and the parties you throw. Not to mention the way you decorate your house. You’re unfettered, unorthodox, opinionated, and visionary — a couple unlike any other. Mentally, you connect. Romantically, it’s another story. But maybe that doesn’t matter. Like other air sign combinations, you can easily be swept away on a sea of conversation.
Aquarius + Pisces: This match is initially enticing but disappointing in the long run — gentle Pisces is way too sensitive to be with someone as detached and cerebral as the Water Bearer. But don’t tell that to Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward. He has the Sun in Aquarius and the Moon in Pisces. She has the Sun in Pisces and the Moon in Aquarius. We should all be so lucky.
If you’re beguiled by an Aquarius, prepare to meet more eccentrics than you thought existed outside of the Land of Oz. Aquarius collects them. Your mission is to strike the Water Bearer as irreplaceable and fascinating enough to add to the collection. There’s no need to present yourself falsely or to iron out the kinks. On the contrary. Be independent (but available). Express your opinions. And be yourself — the more unorthodox, the better. A dozen roses? No, no, no. An invitation to a midnight ramble through the meat-packing district? That could work.
Pisces in Love
Gestures — the moonlit stroll, the mariachi singers — mean the world to you. You’re a romantic who wants a cosmically connected, karmically generated, some-enchanted-evening union with a soul mate. Though your intuition is pinpoint accurate at other times, when you’re in love you can be amazingly gullible, stunningly dependent, and more demanding than you may realize. Ruled by your emotions, you’re also generous, erotic, affectionate, supportive, and kind.
Pisces + Pisces: Same-sign unions are a mixed blessing because they magnify both the strengths and the weaknesses of the sign. Two dreamy Pisceans can communicate in ways that other signs can’t even imagine. But practicality eludes you. Does that matter? Ultimately, it probably does. Example: George Harrison and Patti Boyd. (When their marriage crumbled, she wed his Aries friend, Eric Clapton.)
If you fall for a Pisces, be romantic. Pisces wants to be swept away, but not á la Tarzan and Jane. Being too aggressive may work short term (Pisces can be passive), but over the long run, it won’t sit well. Pisces wants love to mean a coming together of twin souls, two companions against the slings and arrows of everyday life. Pisces also wants sentimental gifts, candlelit dinners, Valentine’s remembrances, the whole bit. What Pisces doesn’t want is advice. No matter how you phrase it, Pisces hears it as criticism, so lay off.
Finding Other Planetary Ties
What if your sign and your beloved’s aren’t compatible? Should your next stop be Match.com? Not necessarily. Conjunctions or other close aspects between the Moon in one chart and the Sun in another — or between the two Moons — breed emotional understanding. Close aspects (up to and including oppositions) that link Venus in one chart with Mars in another kindle sexual attraction. Ascendants of agreeable signs make for personalities that mesh.
The more conjunctions, sextiles, and trines that you see between the planets of one chart and the planets of another, the better. Squares and oppositions, problematical though they can be, are still a tie, and they can provide the right amount of friction.
The only planetary aspects that scarcely matter are conjunctions of Saturn and Saturn, Uranus and Uranus, Neptune and Neptune, Pluto and Pluto. These planets orbit the Sun so sluggishly that they define generations, not individuals. The fact that your Neptune is conjunct your beloved’s doesn’t mean that you’re karmically destined to be together. It means that you’re about the same age — which isn’t much of a tie. But it isn’t nothing either, as anyone who has ever attended a high school reunion can attest.
Incompatible? You be the judge
The actors and civil rights activists Ruby Dee (Scorpio) and Ossie Davis (Sagittarius) were born under neighboring — and hence incompatible — signs. Fortunately, her Ascendant and Venus are in his Sun sign, Sagittarius; her Moon conjuncts his Venus; and they both were born with the Moon in Aquarius. Even though their Sun signs aren’t an ideal pairing, the marriage, which was also a working partnership, lasted 57 years — until his death.
Or consider Gertrude Stein, the avant-garde Aquarian writer, and her companion, Alice B. Toklas, a Taurus. They met in 1907 in Paris, where Gertrude entertained everyone from Picasso to Hemingway in her famous salon, and they stayed together until Gertrude’s death in 1946. Although the earthy Bull and the airy Water Bearer don’t usually mix, the connection between them was immediate. As Gertrude wrote when she described their meeting in The Autobiography of Alice B. Toklas (which she composed in Alice’s voice, as if Alice herself had penned it), “I have met several great people but I have only known three first class geniuses and in each case on sight within me something rang.”
I know what that something was. It was Alice’s Mars, closely conjunct Gertrude’s Venus and exactly opposite her Uranus. In the dominion of the heart, that bolt-from-the-blue connection — along with a series of harmonious trines linking the two charts — quickly prevailed over the warring Sun signs.
The other two geniuses that Alice met, by the way, were Pablo Picasso and the philosopher Alfred North Whitehead. Personally, I never doubted that Alice might have responded to Picasso, who clearly had a way with women. But Alfred North Whitehead? I wasn’t so sure. So I tracked down his birthday, and guess what? Whitehead’s Venus in Aquarius was conjunct Alice’s Mars, and his Pluto in Taurus was exactly conjunct her Venus. I’m certain that when they met something within her rang.