Introduction: Ash Wednesday
1. The liturgy for this Ash Wednesday service was drawn from the Book of Common Prayer, 1979. which uses the New Revised Standard Version Bible: Anglicised Edition, copyright © 1989, 1995. The Psalter is from the Book of Common Prayer, 1979. https://www.bcponline.org/SpecialDays/ashwed.html.
2. Colin Dickey, “Behind the Draped Mirror,” Hazlitt, accessed July 10, 2020, https://hazlitt.net/feature/behind-draped-mirror.
1: Keening (Anguish)
1. Annie Dillard, Pilgrim at Tinker Creek (New York: Quality Paperback Book Club ed., 1990), 3.
2. Suzanne E. Smith, To Serve the Living: Funeral Directors and the African American Way of Death (Cambridge, MA: Belknap Press of Harvard University Press, 2010), 22.
3. Sharon Blackie, “Mary McLaughlin,” December 8, 2019, in This Mythic Life, https://sharonblackie.net/podcast/.
4. “Songs for the Dead,” BBC News World Service: Sounds, March 15, 2017, https://www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/p04w50pq.
5. Clodagh Tait, Death, Burial and Commemoration in Ireland, 1550–1650 (New York: Palgrave Macmillan, 2002), 36.
6. Blackie, “Mary McLaughlin.”
7. Thomas H. Bestul, Texts of the Passion: Latin Devotional Literature and Medieval Society (Philadelphia: University of Pennsylvania Press, 1996), 171.
8. Andrea DenHoed, “Our Strange, Unsettled History of Mourning,” New Yorker, February 3, 2016, https://www.newyorker.com/books/page-turner/our-strange-unsettled-history-of-mourning.
9. J. A. Thompson, The Book of Jeremiah (Grand Rapids, MI: William B. Eerdmans, 1980), accessed May 14, 2020, ProQuest Ebook Central.
10. William L. Holladay and Paul D. Hanson, Jeremiah 1: A Commentary on the Books of the Prophet Jeremiah. (Philadelphia: Fortress, 1986), Project MUSE, muse.jhu.edu/book/45965.
11. Juliana Claassens, Mourner, Mother, Midwife: Reimagining God’s Delivering Presence in the Old Testament (Louisville: Westminster John Knox Press, 2012), e-book.
12. Claassens, Mourner, Mother, Midwife.
2: Covering Mirrors (Change)
1. Katy Kelleher, “The Ugly History of Beautiful Things,” July 2019, Longreads, https://longreads.com/2019/07/11/the-ugly-history-of-beautiful-things-mirrors/.
2. Alessandra Pigni, The Idealist’s Survival Kit: 75 Simple Ways to Avoid Burnout (Berkeley, CA: Parallax Press, 2016), 45.
3. Dylan Thomas, “Do not go gentle into that good night,” in The Poems of Dylan Thomas (New York: New Directions, 1952, 1953), https://poets.org/poem/do-not-go-gentle-good-night.
4. Wayne D. Dosick, Living Judaism: The Complete Guide to Jewish Belief, Tradition, and Practice (New York: HarperOne, 1995), 309.
5. Jen Pollock Michel, Surprised by Paradox: The Promise of “And” in an Either-Or World. (Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press, 2019), 161.
6. Zvi Ron, “Covering Mirrors in the Shiva Home,” in Hakirah 13 (2012): 275, http://www.hakirah.org/Vol13Ron.pdf.
7. Sharon Blackie, If Women Rose Rooted: A Life-Changing Journey to Authenticity and Belonging, (September Publishing, 2016), 121–22.
8. Blackie, If Women Rose Rooted, 121–22.
9. Christopher Ash, Job: The Wisdom of the Cross (Wheaton, IL: Crossway, 2014), 53.
10. Ash, Job, 53.
11. Wendell Berry, Hannah Coulter (Washington: Shoemaker & Hoard, 2004), 57.
12. Dosick, Living Judaism, 309.
13. James K. Crissman, Death and Dying in Central Appalachia: Changing Attitudes and Practices (Chicago: University of Illinois Press, 1994), 25–26.
14. Rachel Held Evans, A Year of Biblical Womanhood: How a Liberated Woman Found Herself Sitting on Her Roof, Covering Her Head, and Calling Her Husband Master (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 2016), 28.
3: Telling the Bees (Fear)
1. Hilda M. Ransome, The Sacred Bee in Ancient Times and Folklore (Mineola, NY: Dover, 2004), 221.
2. C. S. Lewis, A Grief Observed (London: Faber, 1961), 15.
3. “Life Expectancy,” Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, National Center for Health Statistics, accessed August 24, 2021, https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/fastats/life-expectancy.htm.
4. Philippe Aries, The Hour of Our Death: The Classic History of Western Attitudes Toward Death Over the Last One Thousand Years (New York: Vintage Books, 2008), 586.
5. Brandy Schillace, Death’s Summer Coat: What the History of Death and Dying Can Tell Us About Life and Living (New York: Pegasus Books, 2015), 79.
6. Norman F. Cantor, In the Wake of the Plague: The Black Death and the World It Made (New York: Free Press, 2001), 206.
7. Aries, Hour of Our Death, 116.
8. Aries, Hour of Our Death, 579-89.
9. John Greenleaf Whittier, “Telling the Bees,” 1858. Poetry Foundation, accessed January 28, 2022, https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/45491/telling-the-bees.
10. Stephen Buchmann, Letters from the Hive: An Intimate History of Bees, Honey, and Humankind (New York: Bantam, 2006).
11. Richard Jones and Sharon Sweeney-Lynch, The Beekeeper’s Bible: Bees, Honey, Recipes, and Other Home Uses (New York: Stewart, Tabori, and Chang, 2011), 12.
12. Colleen English, “Telling the Bees,” JStor Daily (September 5, 2018), accessed August 21, 2021, https://daily.jstor.org/telling-the-bees/.
13. Steve Roud, The Penguin Guide to the Superstitions of Britain and Ireland (New York: Penguin, 2006).
14. Tammy Horn, Bees in America: How the Honey Bee Shaped a Nation (Lexington: University Press of Kentucky, 2005), 44.
15. Roud, Penguin Guide.
16. Ransome, Sacred Bee, 221.
17. Roud, Penguin Guide.
18. Mark Norman, Telling the Bees and Other Customs: The Folklore of Rural Crafts (Charleston, SC: History Press, 2020), 64.
19. Jan Richardson, The Cure for Sorrow: A Book of Blessings for Times of Grief (Orlando, FL: Wanton Gospeller Press, 2016), xviii.
20. Jones and Sweeney-Lynch, Beekeeper’s Bible, 15–18.
21. Aaron O’Neill, “Childhood Mortality Rates (Under 5 Years Old) in the United States, 1800–2020,” Statista, March 19, 2021, accessed August 24, 2021, https://www.statista.com/statistics/1041693/united-states-all-time-child-mortalityrate/#:~:text=%2C%20Mar%2019%2C%202021%20The%20child%20mortality%20rate,did%20not%20make%20it%20to%20their%20fifth%20birthday.
22. Daniel Taylor, The Myth of Certainty: The Reflective Christian and the Risk of Commitment (Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press, 1986), 81.
4: Sitting Shivah (Presence)
1. Kate Bowler, Everything Happens for a Reason: And Other Lies I’ve Loved (New York: Random House, 2019), xiii–xiv.
2. Lisa Sharon Harper, The Very Good Gospel: How Everything Wrong Can Be Made Right (New York: WaterBrook, 2016), 13.
3. “Timeline of Jewish Mourning,” accessed October 23, 2021, My Jewish Learning, https://www.myjewishlearning.com/article/timeline-of-jewish-mourning/.
4. Zalman Goldstein, “The Rules of Shiva,” Chabad, accessed October 23, 2021, https://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/370617/jewish/The-Rules-of-Shiva.htm.
5. Jessica Mitford, The American Way of Death Revisited (New York: Vintage Books, 1998), 52.
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7. “How Old Is the Kaddish?” Chabad, accessed October 23, 2021, https://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/542330/jewish/How-Old-Is-the-Kaddish.htm.
8. Dosick, Living Judaism, 307.
9. “Text of the Mourner’s Kaddish,” accessed October 23, 2021, My Jewish Learning, https://www.myjewishlearning.com/article/text-of-the-mourners-kaddish/.
10. Zalman Goldstein, “The Recitation of Kaddish,” Chabad, accessed October 27, 2021, https://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/371098/jewish/The-Recitation-of-Kaddish.htm.
11. Bowler, Everything Happens for a Reason, 121.
5: Casseroles (Body)
1. Dallas Willard, Renovation of the Heart: Putting on the Character of Christ (Colorado Springs: NavPress, 2002), 161.
2. Colin Murray Parkes and Holly G. Prigerson, Bereavement: Studies of Grief in Adult Life (New York: Routledge, 2010), 34–39.
3. Chris Raymond, “How to Cope with the Physical Effects of Grief,” Very Well Mind, last modified March 24, 2020, accessed August 26, 2021, https://www.verywellmind.com/physical-symptoms-of-grief-4065135.
4. Thomas Buckley et al., “Physiological Correlates of Bereavement and the Impact of Bereavement Interventions.” Dialogues in Clinical Neuroscience 14, no. 2 (2012): 129–39, doi:10.31887/DCNS.2012.14.2/tbuckley, https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3384441/.
5. Aries, Hour of Our Death, 143.
6. Parkes and Prigerson, Bereavement, 15.
7. Aries, Hour of Our Death, 144.
8. Ralph, Houlbrooke, Death, Religion, and the Family in England, 1480–1750 (Oxford: Clarendon Press, 1998), 223.
9. Maurice Lamm, “The Meal of Condolence in Judaism,” Chabad, accessed October 23, 2021, https://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/336479/jewish/The-Meal-of-Condolence-in-Judaism.htm.
10. Sarah Troop, “The Hungry Mourner,” Modern Loss, July 2, 2014, accessed August 26, 2021, https://modernloss.com/food-death/.
11. Lisa Rogak, Death Warmed Over: Funeral Food, Rituals, and Customs from Around the World (Ten Speed Press, 2004), e-book.
12. Rogak, Death Warmed Over.
13. Hoag Levins, “The Story of Victorian Funeral Cookies: Revisiting a Centuries’ Old Mourning Tradition,” Historic Camden County, September 9, 2011, accessed September 9, 2021, http://historiccamdencounty.com/ccnews153.shtml.
14. Janet Reich Elsbach, Extra Helping: Recipes for Caring, Connecting, and Building Community One Dish at a Time (Boulder, CO: Roost Books, 2018), 120.
15. Bertram S. Puckle, Funeral Customs: Their Origin and Development (London: T. Werner Laurie, 1926), 104–7.
16. Rogak, Death Warmed Over.
17. Rogak, Death Warmed Over.
18. Rogak, Death Warmed Over.
19. Eva Selhub, “Nutritional Psychiatry: Your Brain on Food,” Harvard and Health Blog 16, no. 11 (2015), https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/nutritional-psychiatry-your-brain-on-food-201511168626.
20. Elsbach, Extra Helping, 1, 120.
21. Tish Harrison Warren, The Liturgy of the Ordinary: Sacred Practices in Everyday Life (Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press, 2016), 63.
6: Postmortem Photography (Memory)
1. Schillace, Death’s Summer Coat, 113.
2. Aaron O’Neill, “Life Expectancy (from Birth) in the United States from 1860 to 2020,” Statista, February 3, 2021, https://www.statista.com/statistics/1040079/life-expectancy-united-states-all-time/.
3. Nancy West, “Pictures of Death,” Atlantic, July 19, 2017, accessed August 26, 2021, https://www.theatlantic.com/technology/archive/2017/07/pictures-of-death/534060/.
4. Chris Woodyard, ed., The Victorian Book of the Dead (Dayton, OH: Kestrel, 2014), 155, 158.
5. Bethan Bell, Taken from Life: The Unsettling Art of Death Photography, BBC, June 5, 2016, accessed August 26, 2021, https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-36389581.
6. Mitch Albom, Tuesdays with Morrie: An Old Man, a Young Man, and Life’s Greatest Lesson (New York City: Doubleday, 1997), 174.
7. Lewis, Grief Observed, 30.
8. Lewis, Grief Observed, 77–78.
9. Emily Dickinson, The Complete Poems of Emily Dickinson (Boston: Little, Brown, 1924); Bartleby.com, 2000, www.bartleby.com/113/.
10. N. T. Wright, Surprised by Hope: Rethinking Heaven, the Resurrection, and the Mission of the Church (New York: HarperOne, 2008), 36.
11. John Walton, Old Testament Theology for Christians: From Ancient Context to Enduring Belief (Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press, 2017), 246.
12. Walton, Old Testament Theology, 239.
13. Marilynne Robinson, Lila (New York: Picador, 2014), 106.
14. Iris Gorfinkle, “It’s Time to Stop Calling Pregnancy Loss Miscarriage,” Globe and Mail, October 15, 2015, accessed August 26, 2021, https://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/health-and-fitness/health/its-time-to-stop-calling-pregnancy-loss miscarriage/article26823539/#:~:text=The%20term%20miscarriage%20is%20comprised,a%20%22means%20of%20conveyance.%22.
15. Jerry Sittser, A Grace Disguised: How the Soul Grows through Loss (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 1995), 99.
16. Susan Sontag, On Photography (New York: Picador, 1973), 15.
7: Sympathy Cards (Words)
1. Norman Melchert, The Great Conversation: A Historical Introduction to Philosophy (McGraw Hill, 2002), 605.
2. Michael Card, A Sacred Sorrow: Reaching Out to God in the Lost Language of Lament (Colorado Springs: NavPress, 2005), 21.
3. Ernest Dudley Chase, The Romance of Greeting Cards: An Historical Account of the Origin, Evolution, and Development of the Christmas Card, Valentine, and Other Forms of Engraved or Printed Greetings (Boston: University Press, 1926), 6 and 7.
4. “Sympathy: Product History,” Hallmark, 2004, https://corporate.hallmark.com/holidays-occasions/sympathy/.
5. Schillace, Death’s Summer Coat, 6–7.
6. Chase, Romance of Greeting Cards, 162–63.
7. Meghan O’Rourke, The Long Goodbye: A Memoir (New York: Riverhead Books, 2012).
8. Eric Schliesser, ed., Sympathy: A History (New York: Oxford University Press, 2015), 286.
9. Schliesser, Sympathy, 298.
10. Kelsey Crowe and Emily McDowell, There Is No Good Card for This: What to Say and Do When Life Is Scary, Awful, and Unfair to People You Love (New York: Harper One, 2017), e-book.
11. “Sympathy,” Hallmark, 2004.
12. Michael Corkery and Sapna Maheshwari, “The Most Poignant Coronavirus Shortage: Selling Out of Sympathy Cards,” Chicago Tribune, April 27, 2020, https://www.chicagotribune.com/coronavirus/ct-nw-nyt-sympathy-cards-sold-out-coronavirus-20200427-fhkhpw227fgi3e4iksyorckvku-story.html.
8: Wearing Black (Candor)
1. Lou Taylor, Mourning Dress: A Costume and Social History (London: George Allen & Unwin, 1983), 66.
2. Margaret M. Coffin, Death in Early America: The History and Folklore of Customs and Superstitions of Early Medicine, Funerals, Burials, and Mourning (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 1976), 196.
3. Taylor, Mourning Dress, 65–66.
4. Dolores Monet, “History of the Mourning Dress: Black Clothing Worn during Bereavement,” Bellatory, April 9, 2021, https://bellatory.com/fashion-industry/FashionHistoryMourningDressBlackClothingWornDuringBereavement.
5. Taylor, Mourning Dress, 124.
6. Taylor, Mourning Dress, 136.
7. “8 Intriguing Funeral Customs from the Victorian Era,” Funeral Basics, accessed October 23, 2021, https://www.funeralbasics.org/8-intriguing-funeral-customs-victorian-era/#:~:text=For%20children%20mourning%20parents%20(or,for%20first%20cousins%2C%20four%20weeks.
8. Taylor, Mourning Dress, 57.
9. Coffin, Death in Early America, 198.
10. Lindsay Baker, “Mourning Glory: Two Centuries of Funeral Dress,” BBC, November 3, 2014, https://www.bbc.com/culture/article/20141103-mourning-glory-funeral-style.
11. Woodyard, Victorian Book of the Dead, 101–5.
12. Baker, “Mourning Glory.”
13. O’Rourke, Long Goodbye.
14. Chandler Lichtefeld, “Grief: Ritual Finger Amputation,” Anthropological Perspectives on Death, Emory WordPress Sites, February 24, 2017, https://scholarsblogs.emory.edu/gravematters/2017/02/24/grief-ritual-finger-amputation/.
15. Drew Gilpin Faust, This Republic of Suffering: Death and the American Civil War (New York: Alfred A. Knopf, 2008), 149.
16. O’Rourke, Long Goodbye.
17. Saran Sidime, “The Cure for Sorrow,” interview with Jan Richardson, Hidden Grief, season 1, episode 5, August 4, 2021, https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-cure-for-sorrow/id1554016182?i=1000530967581.
18. Katharine Doob Sakenfeld, ed., The New Interpreter’s Dictionary of the Bible, vol. 5 (Nashville: Abingdon Press, 2009), 16.
19. David Noel Freedman, Allen C. Myers, and Astrid B. Beck, eds., Eerdmans Dictionary of the Bible (Grand Rapids, MI: Eerdmans, 2000), 1148.
20. Leland Ryken, James C. Wilhoit, and Tremper Longman III, eds., Dictionary of Biblical Imagery (Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press, 2010), accessed June 4, 2021, ProQuest Ebook Central.
9: Tolling the Bell (Endurance)
1. Deborah Lubken, “How Church Bells Fell Silent: The Decline of Tower Bell Practices in Post-Revolutionary America,” (2016), Publicly Accessible Penn Dissertations, https://repository.upenn.edu/edissertations/1863, page 8.
2. Lubken, “How Church Bells Fell Silent,” 8.
3. Parkes and Prigerson, Bereavement, 124–25.
4. Puckle, Funeral Customs, 82–83.
5. Sam Tetrault, “What’s a Death Knell? And What Happens When It Rings?” Cake, May 21, 2021. https://www.joincake.com/blog/death-knell/.
6. Smith, To Serve the Living, 28.
7. A. Crosby, “Death in Cades Cove,” in Appalachia: When Yesterday Is Today, ed. Students at the University of Tennessee (Knoxville, 1965), 1–3. Quoted in Crissman, Death and Dying in Central Appalachia, 27.
8. This is according to https://www.etymonline.com/word/knell.
9. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross and David Kessler, On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief through the Five Stages of Loss (New York: Scribner, 2005), 7.
10. O’Rourke, Long Goodbye.
11. Lubken, “How Church Bells Fell Silent,” 156–57.
12. Lubken, “How Church Bells Fell Silent,” 9.
13. Nicholas Wolterstorff, Lament for a Son (Grand Rapids, MI: Eerdmans, 1987), 5.
14. John Short, “The First Epistle to the Corinthians,” in vol. 10 of The Interpreter’s Bible, ed. George Author Buttrick, 185–86 (Nashville: Abingdon Cokesbury Press, 1953).
15. Dietrich Bonhoeffer, Reinhard Krauss and Nancy Lukens ed., Dietrich Bonhoeffer Works, vol. 8, Letters and Papers from Prison (Minneapolis: Fortress, 2009), letter no. 89, 238.
16. Parkes and Prigerson. Bereavement, 86–87.
17. O’Rourke, Long Goodbye, 184.
18. George A. Bonanno, The Other Side of Sadness: What the New Science of Bereavement Tells Us about Life after Loss. (New York: Basic Books, 2009), 96.
19. Mary Oliver, Thirst: Poems (Boston: Beacon Press, 2006), 53–54.
20. Berry, Hannah Coulter, 51.
10: Funeral Games (Joy)
1. Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are (Center City: Hazelden Publishing, 2010).
2. Wolterstorff, Lament for a Son, 86.
3. Homer, The Iliad, trans. Robert Fagles (New York: Penguin Books 1990), 559–60.
4. Mark Golden, Sport and Society in Ancient Greece (Cambridge: Cambridge University Press, 1998), 92.
5. David Potter, The Victor’s Crown: A History of Ancient Sport from Homer to Byzantium (Oxford: Oxford University Press, 2012), 30.
6. Brian O’Connell, “Lifting the Lid on Irish Wakes,” Irish Times, March 25, 2009, accessed September 26, 2021, https://www.irishtimes.com/culture/lifting-the-lid-on-irish-wakes-1.729881.
7. Puckle, Funeral Customs, 62–63.
8. “Odd Games, Lewd Songs and Stories All Part of the Irish Wake,” Independent.ie., October 13, 2012, accessed September 26, 2021, https://www.independent.ie/irish-news/odd-games-lewd-songs-and-stories-all-part-of-the-irish-wake-28G92817.html.
9. Puckle, Funeral Customs, 63–64.
10. “Odd Games, Lewd Songs and Stories.”
11. Crissman, Death and Dying in Central Appalachia, 71.
12. Kevin Toolis, My Father’s Wake: How the Irish Teach Us to Live, Love, and Die (New York: Da Capo Press, 2017), 251.
13. Melchert, Great Conversation, 205.
14. John Piper, “What Is Christian Hedonism?” Desiring God, August 18, 2006, https://www.desiringgod.org/interviews/what-is-christian-hedonism.
15. Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet (New York: Alfred A. Knopf, 1923).
16. Sittser, Grace Disguised, 200.
17. Sittser, Grace Disguised, 48.
18. Wolterstorff, Lament for a Son, 92.
19. Mary Oliver, Swan: Poems and Prose Poems (Boston: Beacon Press, 2012).
11: Death Rooms (Mortality)
1. Justin Lonas, “Where My Driveways Ends, a Cemetery Begins,” Fathom, September 20, 2021, accessed October 8, 2021, http://www.fathommag.com/stories/where-my-driveway-ends-a-cemetery-begins.
2. Aries, Hour of Our Death, 29–37.
3. Aries, Hour of Our Death, 41.
4. Keith Eggener, interviewed by Rebecca Greenfield, “Our First Public Parks: The Forgotten History of Cemeteries,” Atlantic, March 16, 2011, accessed October 8, 2021, https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.theatlantic.com/amp/article/71818/.
5. Barbra Mann Wall, “History of Hospitals,” Penn Nursing, University of Pennsylvania website, accessed October 6, 2021, https://www.nursing.upenn.edu/nhhc/nurses-institutions-caring/history-of-hospitals/.
6. L. S. Dugdale, The Lost Art of Dying: Reviving Forgotten Wisdom (New York: HarperOne, 2020), 79.
7. Dugdale, Lost Art of Dying, 75.
8. Faust, This Republic of Suffering, 92–98.
9. Gary Laderman, Rest in Peace: A Cultural History of Death and the Funeral Home in Twentieth-Century America (New York: Oxford University Press, 2003). 14–15.
10. Brian Walsh, “When You Die, You’ll Probably Be Embalmed: Thank Abraham Lincoln for That,” Smithsonian, November 1, 2017, accessed October 6, 2021, https://www.smithsonianmag.com/science-nature/how-lincolns-embrace-embalming-birthed-american-funeral-industry-180967038/.
11. Laderman, Rest in Peace, 14–15.
12. Sam Tetrault, “How Much Does the Average Funeral Cost in the US (2021 Update),” Cake, July 9, 2021, accessed October 11, 2021, https://www.joincake.com/blog/cost-of-a-funeral/.
13. Crissman, Death and Dying in Central Appalachia, 29–30.
14. Caroline E. Mayer, “The Slow Death of the American Living Room,” Washington Post, August 12, 1995, accessed October 8, 2021, https://www.washingtonpost.com/archive/politics/1995/08/12/the-slow-death-of-the-american-living-room/e1cfbaae-3bee-460e-80aa-1121221ca5a3/..
15. Dugdale, Lost Art of Dying, 83–84.
16. Hazel Smith, “HOT DISH: The Preacher and the Song,” CMT, April 22, 2005, accessed October 10, 2021, http://www.cmt.co/news/1500637/hot-dish-the-preacher-and-the-song/.
12: Decoration Day (Honor)
1. Melchert, Great Conversation, 204.
2. James Van Der Zee, Owen Dodson, and Camille Billops, The Harlem Book of the Dead (Dobbs Ferry, NY: Morgan and Morgan, 1978), 6.
3. Alan Jabbour and Karen Singer Jabbour, Decoration Day in the Mountains: Traditions of Cemetery Decoration in the Southern Appalachians (Chapel Hill: University of North Carolina Press, 2010), 129.
4. Crissman, Death and Dying in Central Appalachia, 147–52.
5. Crissman, Death and Dying in Central Appalachia, 152.
6. M. Ruth Little, Sticks and Stones: Three Centuries of North Carolina Gravemarkers (Chapel Hill: University of North Carolina Press, 1998), 3, 100.
7. Jabber and Singer Jabbour, Decoration Day in the Mountains, 27–28.
8. Muriel Earley Sheppard, Cabins in the Laurel (Chapel Hill: University of North Carolina Press, 1935, 1991), 194.
9. Jabbour and Singer Jabbour, Decoration Day in the Mountains, 21.
10. Jabbour and Singer Jabbour, Decoration Day in the Mountains, 41.
11. Earley Sheppard, Cabin in the Laurels, 195–96.
12. Earley Sheppard, Cabin in the Laurels, 129.
13. George A. Buttrick, ed., The Interpreter’s Bible: The Holy Scriptures in the King James and Revised Standard Versions (New York: Abingdon-Cokesbury Press1951), 280.
14. Jennifer A. Bauer, Roan Mountain: History of an Appalachian Treasure (Charleston, SC: History Press, 2011).
Afterword
1. Parkes and Prigerson, Bereavement, 82, 83, 171.
2. Rainer Maria Rilke, Rilke’s Book of Hours, trans. Anita Barrows and Joanna Macy (New York: Riverhead Books, 2005), 45.
3. Rilke, Rilke’s Book of Hours, 45.