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XI

THE BOOK OF THE WOMEN

46.

DHRITARASHTRA’S GRIEF

“After all was lost,” said Janamejaya,

“what did Dhritarashtra do? And what

did wise Sanjaya say to the blind king?”

Vaishampayana said, “I will tell you . . .”

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Having lost all who were dearest to him,

what could the father of a hundred sons

do now? What kind of life remained to him?

So rich in children only a month before,

his line secure, a treasury of sons

to keep his memory alive, he now

stood destitute, as though they had never lived.

He was reduced to a stupor of distress.

His blind eyes leaked and dripped like a cracked cistern;

his soft hands trembled uncontrollably.

Sanjaya was stern. “Why do you sit there

self-absorbed, weltering in misery?

Grief, feeding greedily on itself,

never brought any good. Do something useful—

see that all those fathers, husbands, sons,

all those kings and followers whose flesh,

thanks to you, now mixes with the mud,

at least receive the proper funeral rites.

Enough self-indulgence!”

“Unfeeling man,

you are too severe!” moaned Dhritarashtra.

“I’m like a husbandman who has long watched

his orchard grow, mature and bear ripe fruit,

who now has all his sturdy trees destroyed

by lightning and the howling desert wind.

Oh, I am like a blasted tree myself,

one that in its scanty sap preserves

a longing for the green that once played round it.

I shall be broken-hearted until death.

“And, in addition, I have lost my kingdom.

How can you expect me not to grieve?

I had the best advice—I took no notice.

Now I have paid. A curse on my bad judgment.

I must have done great wrong in previous births—

I don’t remember. I suppose it’s fate.

Was ever a man more unfortunate?”

Sanjaya was unmoved. “Never mind ‘previous’—

you’ve had enough shortcomings in this life

to explain your woe. When Duryodhana

swaggered about in his youthful pride

you offered him encouragement, not sense.

You failed to show him the path of principle.

Nothing but war would do for that foolish man.

Seduced by the splendor he had promised you,

you were greedy, too avid for gain.

Blind as you are, unfit for a warrior’s life,

perhaps the glamour of war excited you,

that glorious ideal. However it was,

you were too fond of Duryodhana

and loved to please him. You yearned for the kingdom

to belong to the Kauravas alone,

and you were blind to dharma. But now regret

is useless. Rather, seek for understanding.”

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Vidura, too, exhorted Dhritarashtra

to put aside self-pity. “We all die.

Death seizes us, heroes and cowards both.

A man may fight, and live; or stay at home

and die anyway. Time cannot be cheated.

You should not mourn your sons who fell in battle.

They all died facing forward. Heaven receives them

even without rituals; they are fortunate.

Remember, once they did not exist for you;

now, again, they inhabit a different world.

Like clouds, your lives overlapped, then parted.

They did not belong to you, nor you to them.

There is nothing to lament. Listen:

“In our rebirths—hundreds of children,

mothers, fathers, brothers.

Which are ours? To whom do we belong?

The foolish allow grief and fear

to torture them dozens of times a day.

The wise do not.

A person in the grip of greed or pride

is happy to tell others how to live,

but does not want to learn himself.

Time treats everyone alike:

the lowest outcast, the greatest king.

No one can negotiate with time.

Nothing, and no one, lasts;

our lives are inscribed on a flowing stream.

The wise do not grieve over this.

Heartache does not leave

the man who dwells on it; it settles in

and makes itself at home.

Knowledge is for this:

to fight disease with medicine

and misery with wisdom.

We cannot escape the fruits of our deeds;

like burrs that we have brushed past thoughtlessly

they cling to us everywhere we go.”

Dhritarashtra sighed. “These words of yours

are no doubt full of wisdom. But please tell me,

how do the wise avoid being made unhappy

by what they cannot have, and by affliction?”

“By meditating on impermanence,”

said Vidura, “until awareness of it

is experienced with every breath,

not just with the head. Our bodies are houses

that fall apart in time, but the soul inside

is ageless and beautiful and, in time,

is born again. We act, we speak, we think,

we make our own misery and happiness

and come to heaven or hell as we deserve.”

Then Vidura told the blind king this story:

“ABRAHMIN CAUGHT in an endless cycle of rebirth finds himself in a thick forest, full of terrifying animals and other creatures. He is lost, and runs here and there, searching for a way out, or at least some place of safety from the dangers that surround him at every turn. In the heart of the wood is a hidden well, overgrown with vines, and the brahmin falls head-first into it, and hangs there, upside down, struggling, unable to get free. A fierce elephant waits at the top of the well shaft, to attack him in case he does happen to escape. Black and white rats gnaw busily at the roots of the vines.

“A bees’ nest on an overhanging branch is letting fall a continuous stream of honey. Surrounded by dangers of every kind, he nevertheless avidly sucks at the honey—he can’t get enough of it. In this way, pleasure distracts him, even though the rats will eventually gnaw through the roots of the vine, and he will fall to his death.”

“Ah! the poor man!” exclaimed Dhritarashtra,

“I’d like to rescue him.”

“It’s just a story,”

explained Vidura, “an allegory.

We get caught up in pleasures and desires,

and we ignore the rats of time, working

for our destruction. The wise, who understand

the wheel of death and rebirth, cut the ties

that bind them to the wheel.

“Think of it this way:

The body of a person is a chariot,

the mind the charioteer, and the senses

are the horses. The unskillful mind

lets the horses career round in circles,

plunging after this or that attraction

in the cycle of rebirth. When the senses

are schooled in renunciation of desire,

the person is undistracted, free from fear

of death. That way salvation lies.”

Alas,

such lessons are not easy to absorb.

Dhritarashtra was seized anew with pangs

of longing for his sons, and fell, fainting.

When he revived, he became agitated;

he cursed this human life, and was resolved

on suicide. Vyasa came to him—

that seer with access to the world of gods

as well as that of men—and pacified him.

“Listen to me. Once when I visited

the realm of Indra, I found the gods and seers,

headed by Narada, talking together.

Earth had come to them with a request

to rid her of her burden—too many people

had swelled her population, bad kshatriyas

had overrun the world, and she was suffering.

Vishnu, greatest of beings, smiled and told her

Duryodhana would resolve her problem.

Because of him, a great war would take place

at Kurukshetra, and kshatriyas by the million

would be killed. This I heard with my own ears.

“Dhritarashtra, try to accept this:

your son was an embodiment of Kali,

discord incarnate, born to bring destruction.

He was willful, angry, unforgiving.

His brothers copied him. His friends and allies

played their part in the celestial plan.

You should not weep for them; they were at fault.

They died because of their own wickedness.

These events were ordained by the gods

and could not have been otherwise. Knowing this,

might you come to find your life worth living?

And might you find it possible to feel

some love for the Pandavas? My son,

try to move beyond this searing pain:

quash your sorrow each time it arises.”

“I have been struggling in a net of anguish,”

said Dhritarashtra. “My mind was not my own.

But, having heard your story, I will live,

I will try not to drown in misery.”

After this, Vyasa disappeared.

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Later, Dhritarashtra stirred himself.

He ordered chariots, and asked Vidura

to assemble all the women of the court,

Gandhari and Kunti first among them.

They would travel to the battlefield.

Sunk in despair, but glad to be occupied,

Gandhari and all the royal women

joined the king and, hollow-eyed and drawn,

rode out of the city. They were watched

by all Hastinapura, all bereaved.

It seemed that every house contained a widow,

a sister or a weeping mother; women

whose normal lives were lived in strict seclusion

ran into the streets with hair unbound,

dressed in simple shifts, screaming, wailing,

as if all sense of modesty was lost.

Artisans, merchants and laborers

streamed from the city behind the royal party.

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Yudhishthira, too, went to Kurukshetra,

taking Draupadi and the other women.

Each woman on that field, of either side,

was engulfed in the most vivid grief,

screaming, sobbing, almost mad with horror

at witnessing the hideous devastation.

Nothing their anxiety had imagined—

not descriptions, not their restless dreams—

had prepared them for this.

Yudhishthira

looked for his aunt and uncle in the crowds

of women rooting among mangled bodies

and body parts for someone they recognized:

their man, among these thousands of mere things,

beloved flesh among the mounds of corpses.

Craving a face, an amulet, a ring,

anything familiar, they searched, keening

like ospreys calling for their mates at dusk.

Hundreds of women mobbed him, crying out,

“How can a king claiming to know dharma

kill his kin so cruelly? Can you stay sane

after killing your teacher? Your grandfather?

How will you rule without your kin around you?

Shame! Oh, shame on you, Yudhishthira!”

In dread, Yudhishthira and his brothers

announced themselves to their aunt and uncle

and paid them homage. Dhritarashtra managed

to embrace Yudhishthira, but when it came

to Bhima, lawless killer of his dear son,

rage welled up in him like molten lava.

Summoning all his power, he made to crush

his nephew, but Krishna, knowing the king’s mind,

pushed Bhima to one side and quickly shoved

an iron effigy into the old man’s arms.

Dhritarashtra pulverized it, injuring

his own chest in the process. He fell, bleeding,

crying, “Oh! Bhima!” And all-knowing Krishna,

seeing that the king’s anger had subsided,

told him he had only crushed a statue

and counseled him:

“Try to call to mind

the times when you betrayed the Pandavas

although they were blameless. You know the Vedas,

you know how a righteous king should act,

yet you followed your own stubborn path,

were deaf as well as blind. Because your son,

among his many wrongs, insulted Draupadi,

Bhima vowed to kill him. It was deserved.

Try to understand your own part in this.”

“It is as you say,” said Dhritarashtra.

“Love for my son undermined my judgment.

With all my sons dead, only the Pandavas

will give us consolation. Who else is there?

Who else will protect us in our old age?”

Weeping, and with trembling arms, he embraced

Bhima and his brothers, blessing them.

Then the Pandavas approached Gandhari,

standing tall and silent. In her agony

over her lost sons, she was at first

inclined to curse Yudhishthira. But Vyasa,

reading her thoughts from far off, instantly

appeared. “Excellent woman, this is no time

for curses—rather, this is the time for peace.

Eighteen days ago, when Duryodhana

asked for your blessing on his enterprise,

you said, ‘Whoever is in the right will win.’

And so they did—you always speak the truth.

Restrain your anger now.”

“Blessed one,

I have no animus toward the Pandavas.

I have no quarrel with what was done in war—

I know how war is, I know kshatriya dharma.

But when, afterward, Bhima killed my son

by striking him below the waist—it’s that

I find inexcusable. And when, earlier,

he gulped the blood of my Duhshasana—

that was how a barbarian would act!

How could Bhima, who knows dharma, do it?”

Bhima said, “I did not drink his blood—

it did not pass my lips. I smeared my face

and bathed my hands in it—so all would think

I had fulfilled that solemn vow I made

when your son dragged Draupadi by the hair

to the gaming hall. As for Duryodhana,

you know that I had vowed to punish him

for exposing his thigh to Draupadi.

I realized, as we fought, I could not win

by fair means—he was too skilled for me.

Rather than lose everything we’d fought for

I did what I did. Please forgive me for it.”

Gandhari understood. “But oh, Bhima,

could you not have spared us just one son,

one who had offended only slightly,

one who would live to comfort our old age?

Even in the bedlam of battle,

could you not have thought of us, and left

just one of them? Where is Yudhishthira?”

Grim-faced, Yudhishthira approached his aunt.

“I am the killer of your sons, great lady,

I have caused devastation on this earth;

I am not fit for wealth, not fit to govern.

Curse me, for I deserve to be cursed.”

And, though he was afraid of his aunt’s wrath,

Yudhishthira prostrated himself before her.

Gasping with rage, Gandhari looked down

and glimpsed the tips of Yudhishthira’s fingers

below her blindfold. Instantly, his nails

shriveled and turned black. Nervous, Arjuna

moved away, but Gandhari’s anger

had spent itself. She blessed the Pandavas.

Having observed the proper etiquette,

the Pandavas could now go to their mother,

Kunti—the mother none of them had seen

since they left Hastinapura to begin

their long exile. Imagine with what joy

they held each other now; what scalding tears

streamed from their eyes. But Kunti did not forget

Draupadi, whose sons would never again

embrace their mother, and who now was crouching

on the unyielding earth. “Oh, Kunti,” she cried,

“where are your grandsons, all my lovely boys

and Abhimanyu? What use is the kingdom

now that my courageous sons are dead?

For years, in the affliction of our exile,

the thought of them was a bright talisman

I kept safe in my heart. Now they are gone.

What was it all for?”

Kunti raised her up

and comforted her. Then they went to join

Gandhari. Together they stood, trying

to console each other. “We must accept it,”

said Gandhari. “We have to think this carnage

was the will of the gods. It had to happen.”

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